You can save, copy, print, laminate and stick these affirmations on the inside of your wardrobe door. You must say these affirmations outloud to yourself at least once every day, until you believe them. Affirmations are a very powerful tool in changing how you view yourself & regaining your self-esteem.
The more confident you become and the more loving
you are to yourself, the more attractive you become
to others. This is the A4 size laminated sheet that I
give to all my clients.
Positive Affirmations can be used to manifest your goals, and bring positive and permanent change to your life.
What are Affirmations?
Every thought you think every word you say is an affirmation. All of our self-talk is a steady stream of affirmations. We are continually affirming subconsciously with our words and thoughts. This flow of affirmations is creating our life experience in every moment.
Our beliefs are just learned thought patterns that we
have developed since childhood, many of these work
well for us, but others may now be working against us, they are dysfunctional and may be sabotaging us from achieving what we believe we want.
Every affirmation we think or say is a reflection of our inner truth or beliefs. It is important to realize that many of these "inner truths" may not actually be true for us now or may be based on invalid or inappropriate impressions we constructed as children, which if examined as an adult can be exposed as inappropriate.
Our subconscious uses the behaviour patterns we
have learned to automatically respond and react to many everyday events in our life. This is essential to our survival, we need to be able to respond quickly to events around us which would be impossible if we had to re-examine every aspect of things every time something simple happens.
Our learned responses and thought patterns enable
us to automatically respond to circumstances quickly
and easily. Problems arise however, if at an early stage some of the foundation beliefs on which many of the others are built were formed from a skewed perspective, maybe the strategy was appropriate for a perceived difficult circumstance, however often such beliefs are totally inappropriate for succeeding in the real world as adults.
You can use "Positive Affirmations", which are usually short positive statements targeted at a specific subconscious set of beliefs, to challenge and undermine negative beliefs and to replace them with positive self-nurturing beliefs.
It is a kind of "brainwashing" only you get to choose
which negative beliefs to wash away. The way these
statements are constructed is extremely important.
Later I will show you how to construct you own
It is important to remember of course that everything
we say and think is a positive affirmation, using positive affirmation statements forces us to keep focussed on our inner goals and reminds us to think consciously about our words and thoughts and to modify them to reflect our positive affirmation.
Do affirmations work?
YES! Affirmations really work. You will be hard pushed to find any self help program anywhere that does not include affirmations, even the ones that appear to pooh- pooh affirmations include them under some slightly different guise. And the reason for this is, they work.
The more determined you are to make your changes,
the more you are prepared to accept change and let go of the past, the better they will work for you.
Why affirmations work
By choosing to think and say positive affirmations as
true, the subconscious is forced into one of two reactions - avoidance or reappraisal. The bigger the issue the bigger the gap between the positive affirmation and the perceived inner truth and the more likely that one is going to experience resistance.
This is where the subconscious finds it easier to stay with its perceived inner truth and avoid the challenge using any means at its disposal to avoid examining the issue. You will recognise this reaction by a strong negative feeling inside as you state the positive affirmations. Equally if your experience a sense of joy and well being, your mind is instinctively responding to something it believes to be true.
When you get this emotion, you know your affirmations are working! Continually repeating affirmations with conviction and passion will chip away at even the strongest resistance. However there are a number of additional techniques you can use that will super-charge your affirmations and magnify their effectiveness many fold. I will outline these techniques for you later.
Once the resistance is broken, your subconscious is able to re-examine the core belief and patterns you have been working on. The effect can be startling and things can change very quickly as the dysfunctional beliefs get identified and replaced by your own new inner truth.
Depending on how deep into your consciousness these beliefs lay, every other learned pattern and belief that relied on the original belief as a premise, becomes unfounded. The subconscious has to re-examine them all, this can lead to a period of introspection.
If you find yourself experiencing serious resistance or have identified an area of trauma in your life, I strongly urge you to seek professional support, the journey you are embarking on will release you from the past but having proper support around you as you go through the process will make it so much easier.
Because affirmations actually reprogram your thought patterns, they change the way you think and feel about things, and because you have replaced dysfunctional beliefs with your own new positive beliefs, positive change comes easily and naturally.
This will start to reflect in your external life, you will start to experience seismic changes for the better in many aspects of your life.
How quickly do affirmations work?
From day one, there will be affirmations you love
and enjoy saying, these affirmations are likely to
be very effective for you and you are likely to start
experience changes almost immediately. Others will
feel very negative, almost like a big lie, this indicates
resistance and these areas may take longer to impact.
How quickly you can resolve an issue like this is
like asking how long is a piece of string. It depends
on the issue, how deeply the belief is held and how
determined you are to bring about change in that
area of your life, the latter being perhaps the most
important of all.
If you are truly ready and want to make changes,
the quicker those changes will come for you.
People have made cognitive changes in their beliefs
almost instantaneously, once you are prepared to
embrace and accept a change and you believe it to
be right for you from your very heart, then that
change will happen.
So it is not really a question of time, more a question
of how accepting of change you can be. However, you
should be under no illusion that by embarking on this
process you are starting a journey for your lifetime.
As you see and experience the techniques working for
yourself will be driven to explore your inner-self further and other techniques.
As you make your changes in one aspect of your life,
other issues will pop up that you may want to deal with. The joy is, you would now have the knowledge and skill to deal with these issues effectively.
Will Affirmations help me?
Yes. No matter what aspect of life you're dealing
with or who you are, affirmations will not only
make you feel better about yourself and your life.
But if used correctly, they can manifest real change
in your life.
Changing the way you think, reprogramming
your mind and removing the old negative beliefs
that have been sabotaging you again and again
throughout your life. They can enable you to
achieve the life you've always wanted for yourself!
Why doesn't everyone use Affirmations?
They do! It has been demonstrated that nearly 90%
of our thoughts are negative, no wonder we find
ourselves struggling. Each negative thought or word
is a negative affirmation and these nasty little beasts
can be even more powerful than positive affirmations
because we often find them easier to accept.
It is these negative thoughts that feed and validate
our negative internal beliefs. Under this kind of
negative bombardment most people simply do not
have the strength to break free of their negative
thoughts and become hopelessly locked into
their own (usually false) negative beliefs.
Positive affirmations are designed to challenge
those negative beliefs and start to stem the flow
of negative thoughts and words that seek to
Affirmations are more than just repeating words.
It is a whole process of becoming aware of your
thoughts and words in everyday life, choosing to
think and project happy positive thoughts.
The more you can consciously inject the spirit of
you affirmations into your daily thoughts and words,
the quicker they will work for you.
How To Create Your Own Affirmations
Start by taking some time to think about areas in your
life you would like to improve and how you might want your life to be. It is worth taking some time over this process. Write the most important ones down in a list.
Now look at each item on the list and write out a few
positive statements for each. They must be positive
and in the present tense, focus on what you do want,
not on what you don't want.
For example if my list of things that were important
to me included..."A fulfilling job" My affirmation might look like this. "I have a wonderful job that fulfills me on many levels"
Creating your own affirmations is the perfect way to get the right affirmations for you. Here is an example of a very simple releasing affirmation.
"I am ready and willing to release the past now"
Affirmation Mirror Work
Perhaps the most powerful way of using affirmations
is to state them whilst looking in the mirror. Some of
the most important messages you have received have
been from people looking you straight in the eye.
By looking yourself in the eye as you state your
affirmation you magnify the importance of the
message to yourself.
A great way of keeping your affirmation at the forefront of your mind is to write them down, leave notes or cards around so that you notice them throughout the day.
Another idea is to write your affirmation down many
times (10-20), this helps imprint it on your mind.
Say your affirmations with passion, the higher your
emotional state as you say them, the more effective
Here is a video with prosperity affirmations for you.
Hypnotherapy is another important tool for women
as well as affirmations, visualizations & meditation.
This is a link to a fantastic website where you can
order hypnotherapy products. There are so many different MP3 downloads, CDs, DVDs and Tapes to help you reprogram your brain into believing
wonderful things about yourself.
This is another great website where you can order subliminal hypnotherapy MP3s, CDs & Dvds. Instead
of listening to a man's voice, all you will hear will be
the sounds of the ocean and birds. This is great for
those who block themselves from change in any way
due to insecurity. You still get the positive subliminal messages but you don't hear the voice. These are wonderful too for those who can't fall asleep with someone talking.
Here are two meditations to listen to:
This is a link where you can order great affirmations
to stick on water bottles, mirrors or wherever you feel like. They are removable so you can peel them off and stick them somewhere else.
Here is a video for you to watch every morning. It's so beautiful and it has plenty of great affirmations for you.