Too many women, when they fall in love, give everything of themselves to the man they are in a relationship with, always being there for them, seeing them and clearing their schedule no matter how late they call, and generally becoming the man's little lapdog. Then, when the man cheats, or simply leaves, telling them that the spark is no longer there, they wonder what they did wrong, and resolve to be more open, more giving, more everything to the next man.
Whoa, sister! says Sherry Argov. Men may fall in love with you, but if you turn yourself into a doormat for love, the chase becomes a certain catch, and the man will lose interest. So, what does it really take to keep a man's interest? A bitch, that's what."Bitch" in the sense of "Babe In Total Control of Herself".
A Bitch is not a ball-buster or someone who treats men like dirt. No, a bitch is a strong woman who not only refuses to be a doormat, but refuses to let herself be treated by one by the man she is interested in. Because if a man treats you like an easy booty call whenever he needs or wants one, why will he ever respect you? If you are so easily won, easily kept and let your man do anything he wants and get away with anything, he will neither respect you nor want you.
The way to get out of this trap is to be a bitch. Don't hang yourself on a man's opinions or wants- or needs for that matter. Be an old-fashioned lady, and be cool make him work to impress you, work to have to try and catch you, and he'll not only respect you, you'll be the one he keeps wanting to chase- because he can never really be sure that he's completely won you. And the fact that you can stand on your own will make him respect you much more.
You needn't be a tease, just keep a sense of your own boundaries, and a sense of yourself. Sherry Argov lays out the male mind, and sets out 100 "Attraction Principles" that will help you keep your feistiness and keep you from being a doormat to a man. Don't turn into a glob of jelly for a man. Keep yourself and who you are intact. Be a bitch, and watch the men come running to your door!
I admit that I picked up this book for the title alone, but in truth, it was the message in the pages that kept me interested, and kept me reading. And it's not only your man who will respect you more if you keep your head and your self-esteem and dignity- your friends and loved ones will, too.
It's not by becoming a cruel, hateful and controlling or vindictive woman that a woman becomes a bitch- even though that is the usual stereotype
of the bitchy woman. It's about standing a little apart from a man, by not allowing him to call all the shots, not giving up and giving in to a man's every whim. Not allowing a man to get away with treating you like less than a lady or an easy booty call. It's about standing up for yourself. It's about not being an easy catch or an easy lay. it's about being dignified-
and not giving up that dignity simply to catch or hold a man- because that never works.
Women have always been told that they have to be nice. Well, we do, but we don't have to be too nice. It's a very easy trap to fall into- but there are others as well. This book will help you to avoid those traps. If you're not in a relationship now, this book will help you avoid becoming road kill in your next one, and if you are in one now, and feel that the two of you have lost the spark, this book might help you recapture it.
I recommend this book highly, it has some truths all women should hear, and if your man is treating you badly, this book will help you rediscover your spine. Don't be doormat. Don't allow yourself to be treated like one. Be a bitch, and reap the benefits.